Your bedroom should be a place of sanctuary and connection. However, too often it becomes a repository for tasks (laundry, bill paying) or misplaced items (toys, more laundry). These things are important tasks for keeping the house running, but they are preventing your bedroom from functioning as it is meant to be – a place of relaxation, recharging your spirit and mind, and connection with your loved one.


1) Define the space. Just as you identify zones in the rest of your house, clearly define areas of your bedroom for rest and be vigilant in allowing only items that support that goal into this space. 

Visualize your bedroom – how do you feel when you walk in? Now imagine, how do you want to feel? Move items that do not support this image out. Doing paperwork in bed might be an old habit, but chances are, that stack of bills on your nightstand is not relaxing or rejuvenating your spirit, and needs to be relocated.

2) Consider your decor. Family pictures can be comforting and children’s art projects fun to look at, but they are not setting the right mood for your bedroom. Keep the photos of you and your significant other, but move other pictures and children’s projects to a shared space in the home such as the family room.

3) Be thoughtful about corralling loose items. Decorative pillows on the bed can be visually pleasing when the bed is made, but how are they stored at night? How are you collecting the loose change and receipts from your pockets? If clutter is a problem, buy containers that function both as decor and storage, such as pretty baskets or storage ottomans that coordinate with the room.

4) Don’t overcrowd! Bedroom furniture is often sold as a multiple-piece “suite,” however, there is no rule that says you have to keep all those pieces in your bedroom. Would that extra chest of drawers better serve you as a hallway linen cupboard or extra storage in the dining room?

5)  You are what you read. Keep no more than two books on your nightstand, and NO books, magazines or papers in the bedroom that are not related to relaxation, rejuvenation or, yes, romance. 

Keeping your bedroom free of day-to-day stresses is an important boundary to set – you need a place to retreat and recharge. Remember:  you can’t spell “BedRRRoom” without the three “R”s!